Episode # 26 – “Work-Life Balance” as explained beautifully by our Indian Scriptures!!!

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 In the past three episodes we had seen seven important steps with which the progression towards the path of “Bhakti” or “Devotion” happens. They are, “Viveka”, “Vimoka”, “Abhyaasa”, “Kriya”, “Kalyaana”, “Anavasaadha” and “Anuddarsha”. We’ve alongside witnessed several application and relevance of adhering to these steps in the modern day. Now before we move further, I had concluded the previous episode by saying that there is one more important point to be discussed! What is that? Let’s witness it today as we move on.

As we had spoken about the seven steps leading to “Bhakti”, when we were discussing the last two steps of “Anavasaadha” and “Anuddarsha”, we witnessed that we should develop a “Balanced” frame of mind in our daily lives. We shall elaborate on this further with respect to our modern day life. In the previous episode we had discussed one direction of analysis of these two important steps – In terms of treating happiness and sorrow on the same plane with a balance. Today, let us extend the analysis of these two steps in a different direction.

In the modern day, many of us are employed in private organisations across the country and across the world. As competition and the requirements increase, our workload also substantially increases day after day. Thus in management terms if I’ve to explain, the “Expectations” from the employer towards the employees have tremendously increased over a period of time. This leads to employees putting in more amount of work time at office. Subsequently what is the side effect of this? Employees are also human beings and they too have a family to address and take care of, along with other personal needs. Excessive workload can have a potential danger of hampering and eating away the quality time that an employee spends with his/her family. This leads us to an important discussion about the modern day terminology of “Work-Life Balance”. This is where we can apply the steps of “Anavasaadha” and “Anuddarsha”, wherein we need to try to find a suitable balance between our office hours and the time that we spend with our families and also for ourselves.

As we move forward in our modern day lives, we need to pay extra attention to this important fact – Money is important for our survival. However, we should not run behind money too much, by sacrificing our own happiness! This is where we should try and strike a balance. Of course I do agree that everything in this world is becoming expensive and also (many a times) out of reach for the common man. Inflation is rising every day! I do understand that earning money is important in life. However, what is the limit until which we would earn? Who fixes this limit? It is we who’ve to fix this limit for us – The moment we get a decent standard of living with a house, three meals a day, good family, settled children, we should slowly try putting the “brakes” on our efforts to earn excessive money. Again – Please note that earning money is not wrong, but earning “excessive” money, more than our requirement is what is wrong! This needs to be understood by us as we move ahead in our daily lives. We should try and spend time with our family, nurture our kids in a good way, so that they would become future leaders of this great country! All of us should make a conscious effort together in making this happen!

Moreover, we should also realize that working for “extra” hours at office is not going to result in any kind of an extra achievement. Some people have this habit of leaving for office as early as 7:30 AM in the morning and coming back home by 11:30 PM at night! Literally these people come home only to sleep. By doing this, all we are going to earn is poor physical and mental health. It is important that we should develop this habit of saying “NO” for an answer. On a personal note, when I was in France during my PhD days, one thing that I observed there impressed me a lot – The French people have strict working hours. If the closing time of office is 5 PM, the office completely shuts down by 5 PM, and there is no 5:01 PM! Whereas in India, if we’ve to close down by 5 PM, we start our work only after 5 PM! This is the result of poor planning and poor execution of the workload in most cases. Thus we need to understand that planning our workload and charting out a clear time schedule for all our priorities and activities is extremely important.

By failing to do so, we should understand one more important aspect here too – If we’ve to totally devote time only for my professionalism, then where is the time for Bhagawan? Where is the time for focusing on ourselves, and on our “Aatman” or “Soul”? Where is the time for our regular prayers and our “Nithya-Anushtaana”? Nowadays, people even talk about having a “Balanced diet”. Even in this we are not balanced today! Unable and (many a time) lazy to cook at home, we’ve become so much dependent on restaurants and fast food outlets. Little do we know and realize the consequences of such food habits and it is a pity in the modern day world that we have started having “Blood Pressure”, “Diabetes”, etc. at a very young age!

Hence, let this important episode be an eye-opener for all of us to work towards a change in our lifestyle! Let us think within us, ponder within ourselves and look for solutions to come out of this menace. The important message from this episode is that, everything in life should have a time – Be it our professional commitments, prayers, recreation, fulfilling family roles, taking care of kids, parents, etc. We should be able to balance our time accordingly to satisfy all requirements perfectly.

Let us join hands together and make a conscious attempt to implement this in our day-to-day lives! We shall wait till the next episode to witness yet another important aspect from the “Vidura Neeti”. Stay tuned! 🙂

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Episode # 25 – Why are people entering into “Mental depression” and “Extra-Marital” affairs today???

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In the last couple of episodes we had been witnessing seven important steps that would potentially lead us in the path of “Bhakti” or “Devotion” towards Bhagawan. In that sequence, we witnessed the first three steps day-before-yesterday and the fourth step yesterday. Thus the steps that were covered so far are Viveka, Vimoka, Abhyaasa and Kriya. In the last episode we had witnessed a detailed description of “Kriya” wherein we understood why are we focusing on our daily prayers along with the importance of performing the “Brahma-Yagnya”. We offer this Yagnya to purify ourselves from the innumerable sins that we keep accumulating day after day unknowingly!

Now moving on further, we are going to discuss the fifth step towards “Bhakti”, which is nothing but “Kalyaana”. What does this word “Kalyaana” signify? It is nothing but our “character” or our “Gunas” that we are comprised of. When we were discussing the Valmiki Ramayana in our previous season, the readers might remember that we had a detailed discussion on Lord Rama’s sixteen “Kalyaana Gunas”. We learnt innumerable important lessons for life as well as successful leadership from these sixteen “Kalyaana Gunas” of Lord Rama. This is what exactly we are going to recall at this step. If we’ve to list out a few of those important “Kalyaana Gunas” that we require to travel in the path of Bhakti, they are “Dayaa”, “Sathyam”, “Shoucham”, “Dhaanam”, “Soulabhyam”, “Sousheelyam”, etc.

If we come across the people who are needy, we should have the Guna of “Dayaa” wherein we would automatically empathize with them and help them in whatever way we can. Given any circumstance or situation in life, we should always stand by the “Sathya” or “Truth”. We should always speak only the truth and be straightforward to everybody irrespective of who they are and what is the situation in hand. “Dhaanam” is nothing but donating one’s property to someone who is in need. “Sousheelyam” is a very important Guna, wherein we go to the level of other people and move with them, so as to understand their problems, thus making them feel comfortable. Thus, all such “Kalyaana Gunas” are extremely important as we progress towards “Bhakti”.

Now moving on, we shall look into the sixth and seventh steps together – “Anavasaadha” and “Anuddarsha”.

What is this “Anavasaadha”? This is a phenomenon wherein we tend to feel bad and uncomfortable whenever we encounter a change in lifestyle. For instance, when we are travelling from one place to the other, the climatic conditions, varieties and tastes of food items, water, etc. keep changing and are not constant. Thus, if we start cribbing about these changes and if we are unable to adjust quickly to the practicality of that particular place, this is called as “Anavasaadha”. So from this step, we can understand that we should not feel bad about such changing conditions and we should develop the capability to adjust and tolerate tough situations.

At the same time, if we happen to go to a place that is more luxurious and posh compared to our present place, we shouldn’t feel overwhelmed and jump up and down with happiness too and this is called “Anuddarsha”. Thus we should realize from these two steps of “Anavasaadha” and “Anuddarsha” that we should develop a balanced frame of mind irrespective of whichever condition and whichever place we are subjected to!

We shall now discuss the implications of these two steps in the modern day life scenarios. In short, we can summarize this into one term called “Tolerance”. This tolerance is extremely important if we’ve to progress forward towards Bhakti. For instance we would have heard from many sources that if one has to be a “Brahmachaari”, he should sacrifice all the luxuries of life – Refraining from using a pillow or even a proper bed to sleep, refraining from involving oneself into worldly pleasures like travelling by a luxurious car, sitting under an air-conditioner, using expensive gadgets like mobile phones, etc. Why do we have this many restrictions as a “Brahmachaari”? It is only to test if that person is able to exhibit real tolerance in facing life as it is, without giving into any worldly pleasures. Given man’s advancement into technology and luxuries so much today, this is why we say often that it is extremely difficult to practice “Brahmacharyam” in the modern day scenario.

Moreover, we also see in the modern day that more and more people are becoming intolerant. (Of course the word “Intolerance” is politicized heavily today, and readers should not mistake the meaning of this important word). What is real “intolerance”? Intolerance is our failure to adjust and cope up with the surroundings. Forget “brahmachaaryam”! Nowadays people are becoming more intolerant towards any situation and this is one reason why we see innumerable people suffering from “Mental depression”. For instance, our level of patience is declining day after day and we keep running here and there, always wanting all things to be completed instantly without any delay! If there is some delay due to some reason, we are not able to tolerate it! Our patience runs out and we start fuming and yelling at others! Why? This is because, most of the time nowadays, we are living so much in an “imaginary” world that our expectations have become so high! Once those expectations do not get satisfied, we cannot accept it and thus go into the “depression” mode! In a nutshell, we are nowadays failing to accept life as it comes! Thus, if one can overcome all these luxuries and still tolerate (we hardly can see handful of such people), it implies that we are in the right track of Bhakti and we’ve fulfilled the fifth and sixth steps called “Anavasaadha” and “Anuddarsha”.

Lord Krishna in his Bhagawath Gita also emphasizes the importance of having this balanced frame of mind. He says,

“Sukha duhke same krithvaa laabhaa laabao jayaa jayau!”

 Through the above verse, Lord Krishna preaches to Arjuna that we need to develop the attitude of seeing happiness and sorrow on the same plane and not to get carried away by both!

Immediately we would think, “Oh! Am I a lifeless stone so that I do not react to any of the instances that life throws at us?” It is to be noted here that a mere stone or any non-living object cannot differentiate between happiness and sorrow. But we as human beings have the ability to differentiate between both! However, we should strike the balance between the two, and that is the challenge! Thus we should have the patience to tolerate both! If we’re happy, normally we enjoy like heaven and when we’re sad, we cry like hell! This is what needs to be avoided!

There is also one more important reason why we emphasize on “Tolerance” – In the modern day lifestyle, we are under tremendous work and family pressure and this gets reflected both on our job as well as within the home. For instance if there is a bad fight within the house between the husband and the wife, and if both are intolerant towards each other and are not willing to compromise, they tend to take their personal problems to someone else and vent out their frustration to a third person. Now we’ve to understand that a third person should never come in between matters that happen between a husband and a wife. However, if this wife or husband is going to share their personal problems with a third person (We do not know the intention with which this third person is coming forward to console us) and unexpectedly this person might take an undue advantage to get closer to this wife. This is where all illicit and extra-marital affairs start blooming and this would pose a serious threat to a peaceful family life! How many such instances are we witnessing in today’s stressful world? If we do not get the love and affection that we require from our home, we tend to go after it with someone else from outside! This is why we say that we need to treat problems and happiness in the same plane and shouldn’t get carried away by both!

Thus for today, let us think about this societal menace and try to introspect this within our lives. If we have an impression that we are failing in these two steps of “Anavasaadha” and “Anuddarsha”, let us try and correct ourselves and progress further! There is another important point to be emphasized with respect to this context and for that, we shall wait till the next episode to do so! Stay tuned! 🙂

Episodes # 24 – Getting rid of our sins automatically lead us to “Bhakti”???

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In the previous episode we commenced an important discussion on the seven important steps that would lead us to the ultimate level of “Bhakti” or “Devotion” towards Bhagawan. In due course we had discussed three out of the seven stepsViveka, Vimoka and Abhyaasam. We saw that the first step towards Bhakti is cleanliness – both externally and internally. Once we pass through this step, we need to put a check on our desires and expectations from something or somebody. We should be able to practise detachment in whatever actions that we perform. The third step was “Abhyaasa” wherein we witnessed the significance of chanting a “manthra” repeatedly. It gives us immense power and a positive aura around us. Moreover, “Abhyaasa” is required to enhance our understanding about Bhagawan – About his appearance, about his significance, etc. This is extremely fundamental for the practicing of “Meditation”. Nowadays, why do we find it difficult to focus our mind even for 5-10 minutes at a stretch? It is because we lack the quality of “Abhyaasa” and thus we do not have the “prototype” of Bhagawan in our mind. Thus we can see here that only with “Abhyaasa”, we can be able to think about Bhagawan continuously without a break in the middle!

Now moving on, we shall see the next important step leading to “Bhakti” in today’s episode: Till now we’ve seen the steps that are quite easily understandable for all of us. Starting from today we are going to discuss a few tough steps and I request readers to be more focused and vigilant while reading through. There might be a few terminologies that we might not be able to understand – I shall try and explain them as lucidly as possible.

4. “Kriya” – To explain this important step of Bhakti, we need to understand an important term called “Pancha-Mahaa-Yagnya”. All of us should perform this as per our sect and sub-sect. The “Pancha-Mahaa-Yagnya” consists of five (“Pancha” means Five) important “Yagnyas” namely, “Brahma-Yagnya”, “Deva-Yagnya”, “Rishi-Yagnya”, “Manushya-Yagnya” and Bhootha-Yagnya”. When I use the term “Yagnya”, please do not feel scared that all of this need to be done on a grand manner. It’s not like that! All these “Yagnas” are a kind of “Puja” or “Prayer” that all of us need to do every day at our home, during our regular prayer time. Thus, this forms an integral part of our “Nithya-Anushtaana”.

We might immediately ask the question, “Why should we do this “Pancha-Mahaa-Yagna”? I shall briefly explain the significance – All of us in our daily lives are entangled in a situation called “Pancha-Suunai”. This means that, even without our knowledge, we are doing five different types of sins – Wherever there is a grinding apparatus (with which we make food stuffs at home), a vessel with water, stove and a cleaning apparatus.

Let’s understand this in a lucid way. Whenever we have to cook some food dishes, we need to grind some raw materials like rice, dhal, etc. in a grinder. During this process, we would be unknowingly killing innumerable number of small insects, germs and microbes! Whenever we have to light the gas stove, innumerable germs and microbes lose their lives because of the heat! When we have to purify drinking water, nowadays many of us have sophisticated water-purifying mechanisms like Aquaguard, “Reverse-Osmosis” technology, Ultra-Violet filtration, etc. While performing all these, we would end up killing thousands of bacteria and other living organisms. Also, nowadays for cleaning our house we use technology like “Vacuum cleaning” and also use some chemical solutions for mopping our floor. This again kills innumerable viruses, bacteria and other organisms. Eventually we also dust our house regularly and by that, we destroy spider webs, kill many spiders, cockroaches, mosquitoes, etc. The list goes endlessly! Thus summing up the whole thing, every passing day we are ending up killing thousands and thousands of living organisms knowingly or unknowingly! This is exactly what our Vedas term as “Pancha-Suunai”.

Killing so many organisms is a sin, isn’t it? How much of sins are we accumulating even without our knowledge? If we’ve to prevent all these sins from happening, we should stop cleaning our house everyday, stop cooking and drinking clean water! Can we do that? Is it possible? The answer is “no”! Then how do we escape from these sins? Is there a solution for all this? This is where our Vedas prescribe the “solution” called the “Pancha-Mahaa-Yagnya” and this is what is described as “Kriya”. Thus, if we do not perform this “Pancha-Mahaa-Yagnya” regularly and allow the accumulation of our unknown sins, Bhakti would not prosper! If we’ve to focus on Bhakti, the primary important step is to reduce our sins. For reducing our sins on a daily basis, we should meticulously perform our “Nithya-Anushtaanam” along with the “Pancha-Mahaa-Yagnya”.

Normally, as Brahmins, we perform this ritual called as “Brahma-Yagnya” along with our daily “Sandhya-Vandanam”. This “Brahma-Yagnya” would satisfy majority of the requirement of performing the “Pancha-Mahaa-Yagnya” since it has three main parts – “Deva Puja”, “Rishi Puja” and “Pithru Puja”. This will take care of all our unknown sins that we do regularly. Thus, the significance of performing the “Brahma-Yagnya” is that, this would destroy all our sins that we do unknowingly, just like how a fire would burn a piece of cotton roll into ashes! Along with the “Brahma-Yagnya”, chanting our regular prayers, helping the needy, sharing food with those who are our guests, providing food and shelter for animals, etc. would also enhance the requirement of the “Pancha-Mahaa-Yagnya”. Thus through all these techniques, we are trying to weed out all our sins slowly and slowly so that we are able to propel ourselves towards Bhakti.

Thus so far we’ve seen four steps for attaining progress in our “Bhakti”Viveka, Vimoka, “Abhyaasa” and “Kriya”. The next step is “Kalyaana”. What does the term “Kalyaana” mean? What is the significance of this step? Let’s wait till the next episode to find out! 🙂

 

 

Episode # 23 – Seven important steps leading to “Bhakti” or “Devotion” as explained by Vidura!!!

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In the previous episode we had witnessed yet another important sloka wherein Vidura explains to King Dhirdhiraashtra the important attributes which a “Panditha” should avoid. These attributes are in turn the characteristic of a “Moodaathma” or a person who deviates from the path of “Dharma”. Vidura advises King Dhirdhiraashtra that he better mends his ways towards Dharma, before his entire clan of “Kauravas” is completely destroyed. However, King Dhirdhiraashtra is still reluctant to mend his ways, but we can mend our ways by heading to Vidura’s valuable advice! Let’s continue to witness what Vidura is going to say next!

Now, Vidura continues to talk about how a “Panditha” is a person who is also an epitome of “Bhakthi” or “Devotion”. I’ve started this discussion in the previous episode itself, and we shall take it forward today. Before we see what Vidura says on this, there is an important set of 7 steps discussed in the “Brahma-Soothra” (authored by the same Sage Veda Vyaasa) that would lead us to “Bhakthi”. In the modern day, all of us think that we’re experts in exhibiting “Bhakti” towards Bhagawan. Now let us check if we are really experts in “Bhakti”. If we are correctly following the steps that I’m going to discuss now, we are really on the right track. Else, let us try to follow these steps from today! 🙂

The seven steps are “Viveka”, “Vimoka”, “Abhyaasa”, “Kriya”, “Kalyaana”, “Anavasaadha” and “Anuddharsha”! If we are able to cross these seven steps successfully, we reach the stage called “Thallabdhihi”, wherein we can really become an epitome of Bhakti. This is exactly what Vidura is saying in this context also. Let us now discuss each of the seven steps in detail:

  1. “Viveka” – It can also be referred to as “Deha-Shuddhi”. This directly means “Cleanliness of our physical body, mind and heart”. Before we commence any divine task towards Bhagawan, we should always ensure that our physical body is clean. This is why we have the habit of taking bath before doing our regular prayers, or even before we cook something to offer it to Bhagawan. This is with respect to our external body cleanliness. The more important point is the internal cleanliness of our body – “Aahaara-Shuddhi”. This means having food items that would improve our “Sathva” Guna”. “Sathva Guna” is the one that is directly related to our patience, calmness, balance of mind, etc. “Rajo Guna” directly pertains to anger and “Thamo Guna” directly pertains to laziness. Thus, we should ensure that we consume food that would enhance our “Sathva Guna”, thereby reducing our “Rajo” and “Thamo” Gunas. For this, we should have a strict control on our diet. We should somehow make up our mind to avoid those food stuffs (predominantly non-vegetarian food items) that would directly increase our “Rajo Guna” (Anger) and “Thamo Guna” (Laziness). In the modern day, of course we are so time-stressed that we’ve almost stopped cooking at home. We’re depending on restaurants, fast food outlets for our food. However, many medical experts keep writing in blogs, newspapers, magazines, etc. that we should avoid certain food items for maintaining a good health, but still we do not exercise that advice given by them! Thus, we know that our food habits are going in the wrong direction but still we aren’t able to change our habits just because the whole world is going towards it! Moreover, our physical exercise has considerably reduced these days, owing to our urban lifestyle! Thus, from this episode, one of the important messages for all of us that, we should maintain our “Aahaara Shuddhi” properly for the enhancement of “Sathva Guna”. This “Sathva Guna” is extremely important for us to strive towards the path of “Bhakti”.
  2. Vimoka” – This means, “Controlling our desires”. We need to understand that we should not keep more expectations and desires on something or someone. This is why we always say that we need to develop the important quality of “detachment” while undertaking any task. Lord Krishna also preaches this same thing through the Bhagwath Gita. If we start desiring for the end result, we would loose the “Shraddha” or “Perfection” in the process to attain that end-result. Rather, if we perform our duties with the utmost detachment, we would be able to give our 100% efforts into it. This is the second step towards “Bhakti”Detaching ourselves from worldly pleasures and surrendering the fruits of our actions to Bhagawan. We might ask back as to how is this possible in the modern day, given innumerable challenges that we go through every passing day! Here is where our “will-power” comes! Will Power or “Vairaagya” is very important for us to sustain and stick to the path of detachment. I understand and agree that practicing detachment is extremely difficult in this modern day set up. However, we should realize that if we’re getting too much attached to something or someone, we are going to be pulled into a trap – Just like a fish gets into the net-trap of a fisherman! Let us think about it and introspect!
  3. “Abhyaasam” – If we try and learn something important, it is necessary to recollect it again and again (“Punah-punaha”) so that we remember and understand the significance of it. Right from our academic education till learning of Vedas, Upanishads or Bhagawath Gita, this is applicable. “Punah-punaha Abhyaasam” is extremely important for us to appreciate the significance of a concept or a teaching. Spiritually too, we need to recollect and perform “Abhyaasam” repeatedly to store Bhagawan’s image in our hearts! Why is it that we are chanting a “manthra” or a “sloka” 108 times, 1008 times, 100008 times, etc.? It is only when we repeatedly chant a “manthra”, will the intensity and the power increase for it! Also, if we repeatedly chant a “sloka” or a “manthra” as part of our regular prayers, we are indirectly increasing our memory capacity. Thus, “Abhyaasam” is extremely important for developing “Bhakti”.

So far, we’ve discussed three out of the seven steps that would lead us to the path of “Bhakti”. We shall continue this important discussion in the next episode to witness the remaining steps. Stay tuned! 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Episode # 22 – “Empty vessels make more noise??” – Vidura’s explanation!!!

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In the previous episode we had been discussing some important attributes of a “Moodaathma” (Unrighteous person). Eventually we also witnessed the application of these attributes in the modern day world and how people today misuse power, authority, responsibilities, etc. to resort to fulfil their own personal needs rather than the societal ones! Hence this discussion gains significance, given the innumerable modern-day societal issues that we’re undergoing every day! We concluded the previous episode by witnessing Vidura’s explanation on who is a “Moodaathma”. He has listed down several characteristics of an unrighteous person in the sloka that we had witnessed in the previous episode. Let us continue the discussion of it today.

Thus, a person who is devoid of extreme anger, extreme happiness, greed, arrogance and over-confidence is considered to be a “Panditha”. This means to say that an unrighteous person has all the above-mentioned characteristics.

Normally we would see in the modern day also that an extremely learned or a scholarly person would be an epitome of silence, balanced frame of mind and confidence. They would have innocence in their face and this is the best identification mark for a learned person! We have a proverb too in the modern day – “Empty vessels make more noise!” How true is this proverb? This is exactly what Vidura is explaining here too – Only half-learned or a “Mooda” (Fool) would boast around by saying that “I’ve done this! I’ve done that!”, etc. On the contrary, highly learned scholars like our great Maharishis of yesteryears appear as if they do not know anything at all! Yet, they are masters in Dharma and all its principles! Nowadays we see lot of people, institutions, organizaitons, etc. boasting around their “so-called” success stories and propagating them in the name of “marketing” themselves to the world! According to Vidura, such things do not add any value to anybody! Thus, a true learned person or a scholar is like a child with innocence and would never show their scholarliness outside unless it is extremely necessary.

Also we’ve witnessed in the sloka that Vidura has said – A “Panditha” should be an epitome of calmness. This directly means that he/she has complete control over “Anger” (Krodha). Whatever the situation might be, patience is very important. We’ve already seen the significance of being patient, in one of our previous episodes and we should recollect it. If there is a problem, we shouldn’t get too much carried away by it and cry non-stop! Also we should realize that on the contrary, if we taste success during our journey, we should not become too overwhelmed with it too! We can see this also in the modern-day wherein people jump up and down from earth to sky if they’re succeeding in a mission or a task! This over-exhibition of happiness is also not advisable. This is what Vidura explains by the term “Harshascha”.

The third important quality – If in the modern day if we ask someone whether he is doing his “Sandhyavandanam” or “Nithya-Anushtaana” properly every day, he would feel “shy” to say that he is performing them correctly! Why? It is because of the inert fear that what if someone would make fun of him by saying that he is “old-fashioned”!

This is a popular menace in the society nowadays. For instance, if we’ve to wear our traditional dresses like “Dhoti” or “Saree”, etc. we feel “shy” to wear it, because of the western influence! Many of us are now accustomed to wear jeans, tshirts, shirts, pants, etc. and over the period of time, we’ve forgotten our traditional dresses and their significance.

I shall just brief this point with an example: Why do we in India wear “Dhoti”? We can see this traditional form of dress being worn by men across south India. Why do we wear this? It is because of the simple reason that our climate is extremely hot and blazing, especially during summer months. Temperatures easily cross 38-40 degree Celsius. In such a situation, if we have to wear a jeans or a trouser, our private parts do not get enough air circulation and thus we end up getting some fungal infections due to the sweat and the lack of air circulation. Thus it is for this reason we wear the “Dhoti” which is nothing but a long thin cloth that can be wound around the waist. This gives lot of air circulation to the important parts of our body, thus keeping us comfortable! However in the modern day, we are so accustomed to wearing western wears, that if someone is asked to wear a “Dhoti”, he feels shy to do so! This is exactly what we should avoid! We should first realize that we should never compromise our individuality for someone else! This is very important!

However, we should feel shy only for one aspect in lifeWhenever we are going against the “Dharma” and if someone points it out to us, we need to feel shy and ashamed! We should realize that we are going wrong and someone has pointed it out to us! Thus, this is what Vidura explains by the term “Hreehi”.

The next quality – “Sthambaha” Arrogance is also a menace in today’s world! We see many instances wherein people exhibit their arrogance or over-confidence over something or somebody! This is also one thing that should be avoided as a “Panditha”.

Thus, through the above discussion we’ve enhanced our understanding on who is a “Panditha” and who is a “Moodaathma”. These attributes also serve as a foundation for “Bhakthi” and “Spiritual growth” for a person. All of us are striving to increase our “Bhakthi” or “Devotion” towards Bhagawan and thus are trying to grow “Spiritually”. In that process, we need to introspect within ourselves if we have these above-mentioned seven attributes in us. If we try to consciously imbibe them, we would automatically fall in line with “Bhakthi”. We shall have a detailed discussion on this in the next episode and then move on to the next topic. Stay tuned! 🙂

Episode # 21 – Who is a “Moodaathma” (Unrighteous person)??? An important discussion!!!

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In the last couple of episodes we had witnessed the important characteristics and attributes of a “Panditha” or a “Learned person”. Vidura is explaining all these characteristics to King Dhirdhiraashtra so as to try and mend his ways towards the Dharma. In due course, we witnessed that a “Panditha” is a person who meticulously follows and upholds the principles of “Dharma” or “Righteousness” in whatever action he/she does. Moreover a Panditha is a person who can successfully handle and overcome all the obstacles that arise owing to the treacherous path of “Dharma” in the right way. He is one person who doesn’t take short cuts for anything.

Such are the attributes of a “Panditha”. Now Vidura continues in his explanation to King Dhirdhiraashtra as to who is a “Moodaathma” or a “Fool” or an “Unrighteous person”. This is equally important for us too, because many a times, we keep exhibiting almost all of the characteristics of a “Moodhaathma” every passing day in our lives in this “Kali-Yuga”! Let us see what are those attributes in today’s episode!

There might still arise a doubt here amongst many readers that “Oh! Are we as bad as King Dhirdhiraashtra today? We did not try and abduct any property from any other person! Then how can we categorize ourselves into the “Moodaathma” category?” The answer is quite simple: I agree that we have the basic knowledge and understanding of “Dharma” in today’s world – Thanks to innumerable Bhaagawathas, Upanyaasakas, Gurus, Mahaathmas, etc, who have ascended in our great country and educated us on the texts of our Sanaathana Dharma.

However, abducting others’ property can not only be restricted to stealing money or gold from others. This term extends to many other aspects in today’s world too – For instance, we speak about “Nepotism” in today’s organizations, wherein we don’t recruit and select the right person for the right job and rather ending up recruiting our favorite people for the job, irrespective of that person’s qualifications. We can see this in modern day happenings as well – For instance, a Vice-Chancellor of a reputed university granting jobs of professors illegally to those who appease him with money, name and fame! Through this, we also see widespread corruption in terms of bribery, “Goondaism” (threatening or beating up or blackmailing other people for various personal benefits), etc. The list is long enough! Ultimately the background behind all these kinds of modern-day societal problems is that, for our personal benefit and “short-cut” growth, we resort to cheat and take away the property (can be anything) that is due and rightfully belonging to another person! Isn’t it “stealing” as well? Isn’t a crime as well? Let’s think about it!

Moreover, nowadays it is a trend that many people resort to linking “Spirituality” with their “Wrong-doings” and “justify” their unrighteous actions. You may ask me how! Nowadays we see innumerable politicians flocking towards temples. Is it true that they visit temples because of true devotion towards God? Many a times it is not! If we happen to visit some important temples like Tirupathi, Tirumala, etc. politicians and other “rich” people flock there to give huge kilograms of gold and silver and deposit crores of rupees to the temple! Is it true that they give it whole-heartedly? Many a times, it would be to escape from Income tax raids!

Sometimes, it would be a “mutual agreement” between this person and Lord Venkateshwara“I shall deposit 100 Kg. of gold in your temple and in return, I should win the election and get to a top administrative post, thus I should be able to garner 1000 Kg of gold with that!” Isn’t it like a “business deal” with Bhagawan? Or, many a times, we go to temples and pray to God for the downfall of another person, just because we can use another person’s downfall as an opportunity to rise up in life! Is this real spirituality? Is this real “Bhakthi” towards Bhagawan?

I might he harsh in my words, but however we need to realize that “Spirituality” is not just going to temples and worshipping Bhagawan. Spirituality is not just mere chanting of manthras. If a person follows what Bhagawan has instructed us to do, meticulously without compromising on the “Dharma”, that is real spirituality! Of course, I’m not saying that we human beings should live without making a single mistake in our lives! We would definitely make mistakes! However, the important point here is that, we need to listen to the words of advice from our elders, ancestors, etc. and realize our faults and rectify them accordingly! Thus, making mistakes is not wrong! Unwillingness to accept our mistakes and take corrective action is the biggest mistake!

So far from the above detailed explanation, we can see that I’ve explained some important characteristics of a “Moodaathma” or an “Unrighteous person” in the modern day. This is exactly what Vidura is trying to explain to King Dhirdhiraashtra. Let us see what Vidura has to say on this:

“Krodhaha harshashca darpascha hreehi sthambaha maanya maanithaa!

Yamarthaan naapakarishanthi savai panditha ucchyathe!!”

 Here, Vidura beautifully explains the characteristics or attributes that a person should avoid in his life. Let us witness each one of them as follows:

“Krodhaha” – Extreme Anger,

“Harshascha” – Extreme happiness,

“Dharpascha” – Extreme Greed,

“Hreehi” – Unwanted shyness,

“Sthambaha” – Extreme arrogance,

“Maanya-maanitha” – Thinking too much about oneself!

Thus Vidura explains that those people who are an embodiment of all the above-explained characteristics, are the biggest fools on the earth! They are completely unrighteous in their approach towards life! How relevant is this explanation to our situation today!!!

From the initial explanation, how many of these characteristics can we easily correlate? Almost all!! Hence for today, let us think and introspect within ourselves as to where do we stand! Let us realize that we need to go a long way in correcting and re-tracking ourselves towards Dharma! We shall continue the discussion on this topic further in the next episode! Stay tuned! 🙂

Episode # 20 – Important attributes of a “Learned” person as narrated by Vidura!!!

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In the previous episode we had commenced a very important discussion pertaining to the characteristics of a learned person (Panditha). We have witnessed four important characteristics in the last episode and we shall continue the discussion further in today’s episode.

We shall go through the sloka once again to get better clarity:

“Aathmagnyaanam samaarambhaha tithikshaa dharma nithyathaa!

Vyamarthaanaapa karishyanthi sa vai panditha ucchyathe!!”

 Thus we saw that a “Panditha” is a person who strongly abides by his “Aathma” or “Soul”, by realizing the purpose of birth in this world. Once the purpose is realized, the person strives to channelize efforts so as to attain the purpose of his birth and while doing so, there shouldn’t be any “short-cuts”. The actions should be focused on the “Dharma” or the “Righteous path”, thus to attain the success. Moreover, a “Panditha” would be a person who exactly knows how to handle obstacles that would hinder the path of righteousness. He/she would be having that mental strength to take the obstacles head on and solve them with determination.

In this context, we should note one important point – If our aim is shallow and without any determination, we would stop working towards achieving it if we face obstacles on the way! Whereas, if our aim is of extremely high standard and with extreme determination, it is only then we would really strive for it and bash out any kind of obstacle that comes our way! For instance, if we are asked to perform a task without any compensation for it, we would perform it for a while and after that, lose interest and would leave it half-way! Whereas, if someone promises to pay us ten thousand rupees for the same job, our motivation would increase and we would focus our attention more on it!

Thus, here comes the important discussion on “Motivation” for leaders. When would motivation arise within an individual? Motivation would arise only when we see some value in what we are doing! The value could be anything – Ranging from a wholesome of money, to gifts, to attain a promotion at work or to even becoming a CEO of an organization, etc. Thus, we can correlate a straight relationship hereGreater the value that we attach to our aim or purpose in our lives, the greater would be the motivation so as to achieve that aim, and the greater would be our resilience to take on whatever obstacle that may arise during our journey!

So far we’ve looked upon the above explanation in terms of our day-to-day personal and professional setup. Now if we’ve to extend the same discussion to our spiritual growth, we can say that, greater the value that we attach to our aim or purpose in our lives to attain Bhagawan’s feet or “Moksha” or “Salvation”, the greater would be the motivation to achieve this biggest purpose of our human birth! In turn, our resilience to handle any form of obstacle that would arise during our journey!

Thus with the above explanation, Vidura explains to King Dhirdhiraashtra thus, “Oh King! You have a big misunderstanding about your purpose of being a king! The emotional blackmails of your unrighteous sons are carrying you away. Because of that, you’re unable to aim big in your life! Because of that, your actions are focused in the wrong direction and because of your unrighteous actions, you are unable to sleep properly and you are sleep-deprived! Thus, all put together, you are not following the “Dharma” and you are deviating from it!”

Vidura continues thus, “Oh King Dhirdhiraashtra! You might ask me how would it all be possible for me to do all this? Let me tell you one thing: You know that Duryodhana is going on an unrighteous path. Knowing thus as a father, or as a king, what you should have done? You should have mended his ways right from his childhood. You should have ensured that he follows the Dharma. You should have educated him that half of the kingdom belongs to the Paandavas. You should have struck down the ego clash that is happening between him and Udishtra! Everything was in your hands and by your gross inaction, you had lost the opportunity to mend Duryodhana in the right track! So what if your brother Sahuni or Karna or others talk against you or resort to attack you? These people are the obstacles! Thus, rather than taking on the obstacles head on, you’ve given into the obstacles called “Putra-Vaatsalyam” (Excessive affection and attachment towards your son). Thus, oh Dhirdhiraashtra! You’ve failed to negotiate your obstacles and thus you’re in this situation! Even now it is not too late! Please understand this!”

“Nishevathe prashasthaani ninditaani nasevathe!

Anaasthikaha sraddha dhaana yetath panditha lakshanam!!”

 Thus, Vidura explains to King Dhirdhiraashtra through the above sloka that a “Panditha” is also a righteous person who exactly follows the principles of Dharma without asking any unwanted questions. As explained in the previous paragraph, a “Panditha” is a person who would strongly persist in his pursuit towards Dharma. He is a person who never gives room for ego to take over! Thus he advises King Dhirdhiraashtra to follow the “Lakshanas” (Characteristics) of a “Panditha” and not to follow the “Lakshanas” of a “Mooda(Foolish person). What are those “Lakshanas” of a “Mooda”? Vidura is going to explain further. Let’s stay tuned for the next episode to find out! 🙂

Episode # 19 – Who is a “Panditha” (Learned person)???

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In the previous episode we had witnessed yet another important point pertaining to the various potential dangers that might arise when leaders become selfish in their approach. Vidura lays special emphasis on this point while he answers King Dhirdhiraashtra’s queries one by one. He advises King Dhirdhiraashtra to mend his ways and actions and to share the Hasthinaapura kingdom with the Paandava camp, as per the original agreement. He reminds King Dhirdhiraashtra about the various aspects of “Raaja-Dharma” and in this course of the discussion, let us see today who is a “Panditha” (Learned person) and who is not!

In this course of the discussion, Vidura is indirectly trying to highlight to King Dhirdhiraashtra that the Paandavas including Udishtra are epitomes of a “Panditha” and that, his sons including Duryodhana are far from being “Pandithas”! He thus highlights from the slokas that are going to follow from this episode onwards, some important points to follow and some important points to avoid as a person as well as a king!

All these points are going to be extremely important for our modern day life too and I request all our readers to muster more concentration and focus as you read through the following! Vidura says thus:

“Aathmagnyaanam samaarambhaha tithikshaa dharma nithyathaa!

Vyamarthaanaapa karishyanthi sa vai panditha ucchyathe!!”

 From the above sloka, Vidura lists the important qualities of a “Panditha” or a “Learned person” or an “Educated Person”.

Who is a “Panditha”? A “Panditha” basically is a person who is able to realize the purpose of his/her birth in this world correctly and tries to formulate ways and means to achieve that purpose correctly! In Sanskrit, “Pandaa” means “Brains”, or simply “Knowledge”. All of us have brains, however the trick of the trade lies in how are we going to use that brain to succeed! It is only this person who knows the trick of the trade is a “Panditha”!

In the modern day, we might have innumerable aims in our lives – To become a successful engineer, or a doctor, or a CEO of an organization, musician, dancer, etc. However, we should note that not everybody can become everything in this world! It solely depends upon the individual’s capabilities and interests, that he/she becomes whatever in life. Thus the important message from this episode is that, we should try and understand what are our strengths, weaknesses and opportunities lying ahead. Based on all these, we should channelize our efforts to attain what we are interested and passionate about. This is exactly Vidura is also talking about here. He lists out the important characteristics of a “Panditha” as follows:

  1. “Aathma-gnyaanam” – A person who is able to realize the value of his birth by appreciating the significance of his “Aathman” or “Soul”, thus working in the right way to attain the realization.
  2. “Samaarambaha” – Once the awareness of the purpose of our birth is present, our actions should be channelized in the correct way to achieve our purpose. Thus here it is very clear that it is not only the knowledge about us is important. The actions and approach towards achieving our goals are also equally important. There are four points that need to be highlighted in this context with regard to performing an action to achieve a definite goal – “Gnyaanam”, “Icchaa”, “Prayathnam” and “Kriya”. As we’ve just seen, “Gnyaanaam” means “Knowledge” or awareness of the task that needs to be done. “Icchaa” means the “interest” that we develop to involve ourselves into that particular task. “Prayathnam” is nothing but the “Executable actions” undertaken by us to achieve the completion of that task. “Kriya” is the final stage wherein we reap the benefits of our actions. Hence, we should realize that our actions and approach should justify our knowledge about our purpose in life.
  3. “Tithiksha” – Now we move on to the next point – Whenever we start to work on our aim and purpose, we might encounter innumerable obstacles during our path. Thus, we should have the patience and perseverance to tackle those obstacles and move forward in our path. This quality is called “Tithiksha”. This is also extremely important for our modern day life – We might observe every passing day that if we are trying to do something good for the society or for the country, there would always be thousand people to oppose that! The test here is that, are we holding on to our actions by not giving into all these people who act as obstacles to our path! If we are giving into their pushes and pulls, it means that we are lacking “Tithiksha”. Whatever maybe the obstacle, we need to take it head on, and come out of it. When I use the phrase “take it head on”, it doesn’t mean that we should take spot decisions for anything and everything in life. We should think for a moment, analyze the significance of the obstacle and then react. This is where the quality of “Tithiksha” is very important.
  4. “Dharma-nithyathaa” – While pursuing our actions towards achieving our aim, we should ensure that our actions are as per the “Dharma” and not through any illegal means. This is also a very important point to be emphasized here. Some of us have this intention of attaining “quick growth” – Be it both in our personal and professional life. We should understand that there could be no short cut for sustained growth! Thus, even if our aim is very good but if we resort to take wrong course of actions to achieve the aim, it would backfire at us. We see innumerable examples in the modern day – For instance, all of us aim to achieve a comfortable lifestyle with adequate money flow to support our personal as well as our family wellbeing. This is a normal wish that all of us have and it is good too! However, the way in which we are going to earn that money is all what matters! If we work with a reputed organization and get a monthly salary, or if we own a business and make money through the correct and legitimate way, there is no problem! However, just for the sake of earning money, if we resort to illegal ways like corruption, taking bribes, engaging in the business of illegal activities, etc. it is evident that we are retreating from the path of “Dharma” to earn the money that we need! Hence the quality of “Dharma-Nithyathaa” is an extremely important one for a learned person. He or she should be able to differentiate between what is “Dharma” and what is “Adharma” and take decisions accordingly!

So far we’ve seen four important characteristics of a “Panditha”. There are more points to be discussed in this context. We shall continue the discussion in the next episode. Stay tuned! 🙂

Vidura Neeti # 18 – Dangerous outcomes of leaders becoming selfish!!!

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In the previous episode we witnessed a very important discussion on three essential qualities of a successful leader as explained by Vidura to King Dhirdhiraashtra – Patience, Compassion and Respect. Vidura explains that Udishtra (Dharma-Putra) is an embodiment of all the above qualities and should not be underestimated at any cost. Rather, Udishtra is to be respected for what he is, and is not right to cheat him just because he is quiet and tolerating all what is happening around him.

Vidura continues further in his explanation to King Dhirdhiraashtra thus:

“Dhuryodhane soubalecha karne dushyaasanam tathaa!

Yethaihi aishwaryamaadhaayakathamthvam bhoothimicchasi!!”

 Through the above sloka, Vidura conveys a strong message to King Dhirdhiraashtra by saying, “Oh King! Let me ask you something! You’re having a wish that you should never compromise on your luxurious living,. Isn’t it? And you intend to pass on all these luxuries to Dhuryodhana and your sons. Isn’t it? Let me tell you something important! Passing on luxuries and wealth to your son is not wrong. However, passing on others’ wealth to your sons by allegedly cheating them is extremely wrong! Oh King Dhirdhiraashtra! Please realize this fault of yours!”

Thus from the above sloka Vidura pinpoints King Dhirdhiraashtra’s “selfish” attitude that only his sons should be beneficiaries of the kingdom of Hasthinaapura. This is where even in the modern day all of us get entangled into problems. When it comes to money, property or any kind of wealth including land, houses, jewellery, etc. we tend to become possessive and selfish about it. We can see every passing day that families get split, relationships get broken, disputes happening between parents and children because of ancestral property inheritance. It is at this point our ego takes over and we tend to forget that relationships would prosper only if we sacrifice or let go of certain things at certain times. The moment our ego takes over our thinking, we become selfish and subsequently land into this vicious trap! This is where King Dhirdhiraashtra too exactly has got entangled – Because of his selfish attitude that his sons and family should prosper at the cost of the Paandavas! Hence, we should take a moment to introspect within each other and try to understand the significance of this sloka in the modern day context.

Moreover, through the above sloka Vidura explains to King Dhirdhiraashtra that, if he hands over the entire kingdom to the hands of Duryodhana and co., given the fact that they are useless and selfish people, how will the kingdom prosper? All of us know the characteristics of Duryodhana and his Kaurava brothers. If the Hasthinapura kingdom is passed on to those who would utilize the kingdom for fulfilling their personal needs, the entire kingdom along with its people would be ruined!

This is also one phenomenon we are seeing in the modern day – If people in the highest level of administration of a state were focusing only in fulfilling their personal needs by resorting themselves to corruption and other means, the state would not prosper! Only that person who knows the “Raaja-Dharma” and those who would abide by the principles laid in the “Raaja-Dharma” should rule the state. It is only then the kingdom or state or country would prosper.

Stating the above facts, Vidura tries to explain and demonstrate to King Dhirdhiraashtra that he is not getting adequate sleep and is sleep-deprived because of all these thoughts clogging his mind all the time! Vidura says thus, “Oh King! You’re having the noble thought that your kingdom should be in the highest level of prosperity all the time! But however, your actions and executions are just the opposite of your thoughts! If the country should maintain its prosperity, you should hand it over to the Paandavas. However, if the country should be handed over to your hopeless sons and if you still hope that your country should maintain its prosperity, this is never going to happen!” Thus we can see here that King Dhirdhiraashtra’s “Lakshya” (Aim) is different from the way he’s adopting to attain his “Lakshya”. This is the biggest danger that a king or a leader can face.

So for today, let us introspect and examine the applicability of this important sloka in our modern-day life. Moving on from this point, Vidura is going to continue his explanation further to substantiate this important point. He is going to explain who is a “Panditha” (Learned person) and who is a dumb-headed person. Let’s wait till the next episode to find out the characteristics of these two categories of persons! Stay tuned! 🙂

Vidura Neethi # 17 – “Patience”, “Compassion” & “Respect” – Key for a successful leader!!!

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In the previous episode we had a detailed discussion about a very important quality called “sharing”. As Vidura commences his reply to King Dhirdhiraashtra, he is smart enough to point out that the biggest mistake that King Dhirdhiraashtra was making is his inability to “share” the kingdom with the Paandava camp as per the agreement made earlier. Vidura thus “pokes” King Dhirdhiraashtra by indirectly saying that he has failed as a righteous king by not executing this important quality. Another reason why King Dhirdhiraashtra has failed in his “Dharma” is that, he is doing something that Bhagawan Krishna feels it’s wrong! Hence he is slowly getting into the bad books of Lord Krishna, which is extremely dangerous for the near future to come!

Even as Vidura exhorts the “Dharma” in a well-structured manner, King Dhirdhiraashtra is unable to take it in the right sense. He asks Vidura back, “Oh Vidura! Whatever you’re saying doesn’t really convince me! Here, Yuddhishtra and his (Paandava) brothers are also Kshathriya princes! They never opened up and resisted my move of not splitting the kingdom. According to the “Kshathriya” Dharma, if something allegedly goes wrong, it’s their duty to raise their voice and fight for it! Why didn’t they do that? Hence, how can you squarely blame me for what is happening right now? It is only the Paandavas headed by Uddishtra to blame!! Isn’t it??”

Upon hearing this question from King Dhirdhiraashtra, Vidura again tries to make him understand the reality of the situation. He replies thus, “Oh King Dhirdhiraashtra! You’ve raised a very valid question! However, please realize that Uddishtra and the Paandavas haven’t raised their voice till today because of their high respect and regards for you as a righteous king! It is also because of the extremely good qualities that are imbibed within themselves right from their birth, that has prevented them to go hammer and tongs on the issue!”

“Aanrushamsya anukroshaath dharmaath sathyaath paraakramaath!

Guruthvaavahi samprekshya bahun kleshaanstrithikshyathe!!”

This is an extremely important sloka. Vidura explains through the above sloka that Uddishtra is a person who is extremely merciful and compassionate to all the living beings in this world (“Aanrushamsya”)! He is an epitome of patience(“Trithikshu”) In other words, irrespective of whatever hurdles that would arise, he knows how to handle them successfully with his patience! Moreover, Uddishtra would not be able to tolerate even a bit when he sees someone suffering in front of him (“Anukroshaath”)! Such is the amount of Uddishtra’s compassion for other living beings. The moment he sees a suffering in front of him, he would be moved to tears within seconds! Also to add on, Uddishtra is a person who would never compromise on “Dharma” and “Sathya” (Truth). Uddishtra is a person who stands by the truth at any instance of situation.

Vidura continues.. “Oh King Dhirdhiraashtra! By asking such a question, you are only  undermining the significance of the great Uddishtra! You are underestimating him! Please try to realize that only because of his good thought that the kingdom should not suffer because of this particular dispute, only because he respects you and rates you extremely high in regards and only because he is extremely compassionate towards your well-being as a righteous king, he is quiet for all these days! But what are you and your sons doing to him? Your sons have done all sorts of evil things to him, pushed him to situations wherein he had to bare uncontrollable misery! Even after undergoing all these trials and tribulations, he is still maintaining his serenity! This shows his impeccable character! Hence, Dhirdhiraashtra, please do not underestimate Uddishtra!for all the above-mentioned reasons!!!”

From this sloka, we can understand and infer the significance of three important aspects in lifePatience, compassion and respect! The life of Uddishtra (Dharma-Puthra) teaches us the essence of all of the three important characteristics. These characteristics directly can be applied to modern day leadership and management theories too – A successful leader across any domain would have these three things imbibed in him or her. First of all, patience is extremely important for a leader. Why? It is because, only if the leader has the patience, he/she would be able to analyze the given situation and understand the crux of the problem in hand! If the leader gets emotionally carried away by the situation, he/she would end up only taking decisions that would be causing revenge to others! Eventually this would lead to backlashing and the leader’s brand reputation would take a huge hit! We can see innumerable cases of leaders who have failed in their journey because of this issue!

Once a leader has the patience in him/her, compassion and respect would follow! Once the leader is capable of controlling his/her emotions, the situation can be better understood and thus, he/she can get to the real problem that the organization or his employees are facing! Thus, the true compassion in the leader grows! Once the leader exhibits compassion, respect automatically follows! Because of the compassionate attitude, the leader would be able to respect his/her employees’ situations, and in turn the employees would also appreciate and respect their leader! They would stand by their leader at any compelling situation! This is how successful leaders emerge!

Thus from today’s episode, through Vidura’s answers to King Dhirdhiraashtra we’ve laid the foundation of successful leadership by explaining three important characteristics – Patience, Compassion and Respect! We shall wait till the next episode to build further upon this strong foundation! Stay tuned! 🙂